Sunday, May 27, 2012

Why not Be Kind????

These past few weeks I have learned so much. Weird right, just some random time in my life I experience learning some very valuable lessons. This post is very important to me. 
We have been in a very very rough financial spot in our lives, and it has been so hard and embarrassing. I know people say "don't be embarrassed everyone has a hard time."  Well my hard times have taught me that there are still kind people in the world.  
Riley and I went to Walmart with the girls a couple weeks ago, and we use food stamps. Well we get to the register and they tell us our total after food stamps was $8.00 but neither Riley or I had any money, nor did we purchase anything that food stamps didn't cover. So here we are with two managers and our cashier looking at receipts trying to figure out what we still owed for. The lady continuously asked us if we had the $8.00 to pay cause that was pretty much the only option. There were people in line behind us, they had been waiting forever!! I was so embarrassed, my eyes were filling up with tears. Then we heard the lady behind us say " Don't worry about it we will pay." Of course we insisted she didn't but she did anyways, and of course I cried. The husband turns to us and says "don't worry about it we have been there too." I couldn't help but cry, I felt in shock to know there were still such kind people out there. I felt in my heart I will need to be paying it forward. I hugged this stranger and thanked them for as long as I could.  That day I got a glimpse of world peace.


Then just recently we were driving when Rileys gas light came on. His gas dropped rapidly all of a sudden. We had $3 dollars in change and that was it. We stopped at the gas station and told the guy $3 dollars on pump 4. He told Riley just keep filling it up until stops. So as we were getting gas we watched the numbers go up and up. The gas pump stopped at $10, and I looked at Riley and I told him, "someones watching out for us."  
In hard times we keep our spirits positive, we believe in paying it forward and helping other people. We know there is hope for the world, the future, however we read a story today about a little boy, who just couldn't get past his hard times. He committed suicide, He was Seven years old..... here's his story.

DETROIT, May 25 (UPI) -- A 7-year-old boy's suicide over being bullied at school has shocked a Detroit community and has lawmakers speaking out against bullying.
The boy, whose name was not reported, was found hanging from a bunk bed with a belt around his neck Wednesday afternoon by his 14-year-old sister, the Detroit Free Press reported.
His mother told police she forced her way into the bedroom where the boy was, got him down and called 911.
The boy "had been depressed due to her recent separation from his father, the fact that he had been bullied continuously by the children at school, in addition to the constant teasing that he had endured because he was the only boy in the home of eight females," a police report of the incident said.
The boy's mother told police he had mentioned harming himself in the past and had been seeing the family's pastor to help him cope.
"It's just a tragedy on so many levels," Detroit Police Chief Ralph Godbee Jr. said Thursday, calling the situation "unfathomable."
Neighbor Harold Pleasant said he could hardly believe what had happened.
"I'm going to be devastated about this if God don't take it away from me because I can't think of nothing else," he said. "I don't know how a kid that age can come to the conclusion to kill himself."
Detroit City Councilwoman Saunteel Jenkins, who sponsored Detroit's ordinance that makes it a misdemeanor to bully children in person or online, said the boy's suicide demonstrates the need for a stronger response to bullying.
"For a 7-year-old to lose his life in any form is heartbreaking. But to imagine a child that young, who is so sad, that believes his only option is to do this? Heartbreaking is not a strong enough word,"

This story more than upset me. This breaks my heart. When I was seven I didn't know about suicide. What made sense in this poor boys life that this was the way out? 7 years old, this boy didn't even live. How can someone be so mean? How can one be so terrorized at such a young and innocent age. Bullying must stop. Something must be done. I am going to strive my hardest to start a fundraising group against bullying. These stories make me sick.. Be kind. Give a smile, you never ever know how you might affect someone. And again I am going to challenge all of you, to be kind. Be the one to pay for someone elses groceries, help the elderly, simply be kind every day. ♥



Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Who I'm trying to be .....Giving Back

I have always wanted to go into a career where I am helping others. Even if I have changed my mind about the career the next one I choose always involves helping others. I enjoy helping people it is who I am.
I am the one holding up traffic to give the homeless man my food, I am the one who puts all kinds of money in salvation army buckets around Christmas, I am the one who once bought 19 kids gifts off the angel tree, I want to volunteer, I want to give things to those in need. I have been given so many great things in life and I want to give them back.  
I tell people "I am going to school to become a social worker" and almost every time the response is "oh they make about the same as a teacher right?" And yes they do! To me it isn't about how much money I am making. I want to help people, I want to volunteer, I want my girls to know the importance of this.
I have a team for the best buddies walk on May 19th. My team name is "Buddies for Life"  This program is offering so many people with intellectual and developmental disabilities a chance to have a life, and have friends like me and you. I love my team and I support them 100%. I am looking for walkers to come an walk with my team, I am looking for donations to put towards the program.
Our best buddies mission...
OUR MISSION
Best Buddies' mission is to establish a global volunteer movement that creates opportunities for one-to-one friendships, integrated employment and leadership development for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD).
 


So I have contacted some people found out somethings I can do on my own when there are not big events coming up.
  • Making quilts for neglected an abused children
  • Tie fleece blankets for cancer patients leaving treatment
  • Create goody bags for the abused children
  • Join a walk
  • Donate money
  • Donate time 
 I recently got a job, not a huge paying job, but its some income. I told my boyfriend that a portion of all my checks will go to me donating and helping other people. I am going to start a group night, we all get together an work on the project for the evening. I will be providing dinner and supplies!!! If you would like to help purchase things it would be wonderful but I just want people to come and help me get things together. I am going to teach my girls to donate and to volunteer. My girls will be volunteering at the soup kitchen one day, and my girls will help me give older clothes to those who need it. All too often people forget about giving back, paying it forward. 
Look around you, take note....
I challenge every single one of you.....
  • Give a compliment daily
  • Purchase the persons stuff behind you in line
  • Smile an wave you dont know how much you might help
  • Offer a helping hand
  • Donate
  • Volunteer
Take just a moment from your life to help better someone elses. You might not be able to find a cure for cancer, or stop world hunger, or end child abuse, But you never know what a simple something can do for someones day.
Don't forget to be kind today <3 .....Melani